The Accidental Reconnect

Long-lost friends and family.

I say long-lost, but really, it’s more like we only chat every so many years. The last time I spoke to or saw my cousin, his kids were in early elementary school at his sister’s wedding. Now they’re in high school—and his oldest just went to her prom. WOW!

We’ve liked each other’s posts on Facebook over the years, but we hadn’t really talked.

Most of you know I’m not close to my family—except for two of my sisters.

One lives in another state, and her family is my main family.

The other lives in the same state as I do, but far enough away that we don’t visit often.

As for the rest of my family… well, it’s an extremely long story I don’t care to go into or rehash.

Let’s just say I have no desire to see or talk to them.

But my cousin—he’s great.

We accidentally reconnected this past week.

He’s part of my mom’s side of the family. (My parents split when I was around one year old.)

Anyway, I was trying to send a video to my sister via Facebook Messenger. When I tapped to paste, his name popped up—and oops, he got the video instead.

I immediately deleted it, but of course, it showed that something had been deleted, sooooo…

I sent a quick message apologizing and ended with:

“By the way, how are you and your family doing?”

That oops turned into a great conversation.

I found out we have more in common than I ever knew—and his wife and I have things in common, too, which is great.

We hope to meet up around my sister’s house (TX area) so we can all catch up in person.

I’m really looking forward to meeting the rest of his family (I’ve only met his two older children).

Soooo… Some Connections Are Worth Rekindling

Reconnecting can be a good thing.

It can be a bad thing, too—but you have to know the difference.

I’m choosy about who I reconnect with these days, and at any level of communication.

I’ve learned you can’t trust everyone—and that includes some family.

I’ve also learned how to walk away and say:

“No, I choose not to have you in my life. I love you and wish you the best, but forget you ever knew me.”

That doesn’t mean I don’t care about them or love them—it just means they can keep their drama far, far away from me.

I have enough going on in my own.

Is it wrong? Maybe.

But it took me years to realize that it’s my decision.

It’s okay not to have certain people in your life.

It’s your life. You can choose.

Reach Out While You Can

As for my cousin—we just lost contact.

Life got busy for both of us, and time slipped away.

So, this was a good reconnect.

If there’s someone you’ve been thinking about and might want to reconnect with, reach out—even just to say hello, to let them know they are being thought of. Doesn’t have to be any more.

They might want to reconnect with you, too. You won’t know till you try.

Remember time flies fast, so don’t let it pass you by.

Not only is time precious—every single second is.

Till next time…

May your days be filled with hugs, love, laughter, and blessings. 💕