Unspoken Words

Today I was listening to someone give a speech on speaking and that We Need To Speak.  In her speech, the “We Need To Speak” wasn’t about the typical we have to speak, as in a possible break up or something has to be figured out.  It was about the fact that we all have things to say and we need to say them.  Listening to her got me thinking about how many times I haven’t said something I wanted or needed to say.

There have been way too many times to count that I would leave a conversation and minutes, hours, shoot days later think of something that I could have, should have or would have like to have added.  I know it’s not good to should on yourself but, well, it’s true.  Haven’t you ever done that?

Or… had something you wanted to tell a person and forgot and figured you would tell them the next time you saw them or “hey I’ll call so and so up later (or now a days text) and tell them” whatever it was.  Only to not talk to them again for some reason.

Or… that cute guy or girl you liked in class (talking about back in high school) and if you would have only told them you thought they were cute or that you had a crush on them.  What might have happened?  When I first opened an account on Facebook people from high school found me and darn it there weren’t three guys that said they had a crush on me but were too scared to say anything.   I wish they would have.  Not that I would have dated them, but it would have been nice to know because I didn’t think that most even knew I existed, let alone had a crush on me.  I felt like an ugly duckling most of the time.

Sooo …  SAY IT!!!  Whatever it is say it.  If it isn’t something nice or could hurt someone, well, think about it carefully or candy coat it, but if it is something you feel deeply about Say It.  Nicely but say it.

If there is someone that you care about, please tell them.  Don’t wait till it’s too late.   Several years ago one of my best friends was sick and I called to check up on her and she was not in a good place.  She didn’t want to talk much and especially about how she was doing.  I told her the usual “I hope you feel better” and almost added in I Love You and “I’ll be down to visit you soon” – but didn’t.  I never got to talk to her again.  She wouldn’t speak to hardly anyone in person let alone on the phone.  She died of cancer not long after that conversation.  I was angry for a while after that.  Angry with myself for not speaking up and for leaving those simple caring words out of the last conversation we would ever have.

There were several people in my life I wish I could have told them “I Love You and Thank You for being a part of my life”.  They meant so much to me but I never told them.  As I type this post and think of them I get a lump in my chest and I know it is those unspoken words and how they will turn into tears as I start to miss them.  But they are gone and I can only hope that somehow or through spirit or whatever that they knew how much they meant to me.

And as I close this post I think of several people who are in my life now that mean the world to me and I love them dearly – I think there are a few words that will Not be Unspoken anymore.  These individuals will know as often as possible that I care and love them.  That I am blessed to have them in my life.

So, will you join me speaking up or will you leave words Unspoken?

Hugs, Love, and Blessings